This is why such a soul experiences excessive sadness and despair soon as signs of its own lack of integrity show up, with the consequence that it immediately feels unacceptable to God.  That’s why a sick soul is always hiding the truth from itself, the mechanism for which is endless self-justification. And why the correction of such a soul is always taken as rejection.
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On Helping Souls That Are Being Tried
Do not lose your serenity on account of those who are being tried.  Pray for them; offer the sufferings of My Passion and some acts of self-denial, some self-imposed sufferings for them.”
Jesus to Sister Mary of the Holy Trinity
 
When souls are being tried, what they need from you is deeper love of Me—so that, through you, I may give them the grace they need.  So you see, you need your serenity even more at such times.  Do not try to buy peace for souls by losing your own!  Offer up your act of self-denial at such times, so that the soul who is suffering may get the grace to accept in joy what she cannot change—through your free offering of love.  You will see more and more how you are all instruments in the communication of My Love, for one another as for yourselves.  The more you will understand that, the more you will love one another.
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On Feeling Unloved
Only the realization that I love you now, I, Jesus, who know all your misery, all your sins, the failure of your whole life, only the knowledge that I Who know how underserving you are of anyone‘s love, yet love you nevertheless with the Love of God Himself, can take away the pain and anxiety of feeling unloved by so many persons, and not undeservedly.
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 The Age of St. Bernard’s is not like Ours.
St. Bernard, commenting on the Canticle (Song of Songs)

"Or perhaps, drawn away and seduced by his own concupiscence, he is still being dangerously tempted. Such a soul as this does not need a Bridegroom but a Physician, and for this reason receives, not kisses or caresses, surely, but only remedies for wounds in oil and ointments."

Yes, Bernard, in your time this was true — for the time had not yet come to force men willy-nilly from the highways and byways to the wedding feast. Men were still strong and able to overcome concupiscence with a help of the Physician less than the Kiss of His Mouth, less than the embrace of His intimacy. But now we are as children, impatient as we are weak, and needing, therefore, to be fondled and kissed by the Mother and her spouse, by Mary and Jesus.  0 Bernard, those of your age, who could help yourselves, needed the Physician only to supply the ointments of which you speak. But we need the Kiss of this Bridegroom who condescends to the weakness of little ones, like this little one who is too weak to help himself and therefore cries out:
"Let him kiss me with the kiss of his mouth, for thy breasts are better than wine.  For my justification now is not that I am healed by the ointments of the Physician, but that I am in the arms of His Mother, that it is her purity that makes me worthy of His embrace, not my virtue."
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If Something Is Painful
It seems I always assume that if something is painful, it is evil and to be avoided. Then, when I am suffering, I begin to think, and I do not rest until I have discovered some truth which I hope will remove the pain. But I do not think I do this only because I want to avoid suffering: it is rather that I look upon suffering as a sign that I am wrong somehow, that God is displeased with me, and therefore something in me must be changed.
    

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Curing Souls That Cannot Take Correction
A sick soul cannot be corrected — for a sick soul correction means rejection. This is how a sick soul is inhibited in its relation to God — because subjectively there are only two states for it, presumption or despair — either it feels that it is totally accepted or totally rejected, whereas the truth in this life is that it is never one or the other. A soul is always substantially accepted by God if it will accept His love, even though its evil inclinations can never be accepted by God. But the sick soul cannot understand this distinction practically.
The reason for this is that a person who is emotionally sick does not accept himself. And he does not accept himself because he knows, in a way, that the motivation of his life is unacceptable, that he is in a way dominated by desires that are wrong, desires that God will never accept — and he feels, therefore, that if the truth were out he would be condemned.
And yet he himself does not actually know what that truth is — because he does not want to know it.  He would want to know it, if only he could feel that God would accept him even if the truth were known.  It is strange, therefore, but such a person's sense of his acceptableness to God is based on the premise that God doesn't know the truth about him.  And any sign of God's displeasure (e.g., in the form of a correction) is a sign that God in fact does know the truth and that the soul, therefore, is being rejected by God. 
In this way we can see how a troubled soul is inhibited in the exercise of the virtue of hope in his relation to God — because his hope is subjectively based on his own integrity instead of on God's.  This is why such a soul experiences excessive sadness and despair soon as signs of its own lack of integrity show up, with the consequence that it immediately feels unacceptable to God.  That’s why a sick soul is always hiding the truth from itself, the mechanism for which is endless self-justification. And why the correction of such a soul is always taken as rejection.
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On Helping Souls That Are Being Tried
“Do not lose your serenity on account of those
who are being tried. 
"Pray for them; offer the sufferings of My Passion and some acts of self-denial, some self-imposed sufferings for them.”
--Jesus to Sister Mary of the Holy Trinity--
 
When souls are being tried, what they need from you is deeper love of Me—so that, through you, I may give them the grace they need.  So you see, you need your serenity even more at such times.  Do not try to buy peace for souls by losing your own!  Offer up your act of self-denial at such times, so that the soul who is suffering may get the grace to accept in joy what she cannot change—through your free offering of love.  You will see more and more how you are all instruments in the communication of My Love, for one another as for yourselves.  The more you will understand that, the more you will love one another.
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On Feeling Unloved
Only the realization that I love you now, I, Jesus, who know all your misery, all your sins, the failure of your whole life, only the knowledge that I Who know how underserving you are of anyone‘s love, yet love you nevertheless with the Love of God Himself, can take away the pain and anxiety of feeling unloved by so many persons, and not undeservedly.
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 The Age of St. Bernard’s Is Not Like Ours.
St. Bernard, commenting on the Canticle (Song of Songs):
"Or perhaps, drawn away and seduced by his own concupiscence, he is still being dangerously tempted. Such a soul as this does not need a Bridegroom but a Physician, and for this reason receives, not kisses or caresses, surely, but only remedies for wounds in oil and ointments."
 
Yes, Bernard, in your time this was true — for the time had not yet come to force men willy-nilly from the highways and byways to the wedding feast. Men were still strong and able to overcome concupiscence with a help of the Physician less than the Kiss of His Mouth, less than the embrace of His intimacy. But now we are as children, impatient as we are weak, and needing, therefore, to be fondled and kissed by the Mother and her spouse, by Mary and Jesus. 
0 Bernard, those of your age, who could help yourselves, needed the Physician only to supply the ointments of which you speak. But we need the Kiss of this Bridegroom who condescends to the weakness of little ones, like this little one who is too weak to help himself and therefore cries out:
"Let him kiss me with the kiss of his mouth, for thy breasts are better than wine.”  
For my justification now is not that I am healed by the ointments of the Physician, but that I am in the arms of His Mother, that it is her purity that makes me worthy of His embrace, not my virtue.
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If Something Is Painful
It seems I always assume that if something is painful, it is evil and to be avoided. Then, when I am suffering, I begin to think, and I do not rest until I have discovered some truth which I hope will remove the pain. But I do not think I do this only because I want to avoid suffering: it is rather that I look upon suffering as a sign that I am wrong somehow, that God is displeased with me, and therefore something in me must be changed.
But I see now that suffering does not necessarily mean something is wrong in me. For although there is a wrong kind of suffering, a joyless suffering which does indicate that something is wrong, not because there is suffering, but because the suffering is without joy — there is also a right kind of suffering, a suffering in joy, which is a sign that everything is right. This is suffering in Jesus, a suffering in total silence, the silence of the mind as well as the mouth. The Wisdom of the Word supports this suffering, whereas my wisdom would want to dissolve all suffering in some new idea, my own “word.”
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An Act of True Humility
It is our love of Jesus that permits Him to work in us, and it is His work in us that makes us humble. And to realize this, not in words, but in an unceasing act of love, is true humility
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The Voice of the Father
The Spirit of silence is the Voice of the Father who speaks to me in the Word,
each moment a little word for me, out of the Mouth of the Father,
 a little word made small for me in time, in His Word.
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The strength of my soul is the poverty of a single point of time, the point of my contact with my Lord and my Savior, now, in Mary.
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