This is why such a soul experiences excessive sadness and despair soon as signs of its own lack of integrity show up, with the consequence that it immediately feels unacceptable to God.  That’s why a sick soul is always hiding the truth from itself, the mechanism for which is endless self-justification. And why the correction of such a soul is always taken as rejection.
On Helping Souls That Are Being Tried
Do not lose your serenity on account of those who are being tried.  Pray for them; offer the sufferings of My Passion and some acts of self-denial, some self-imposed sufferings for them.”
Jesus to Sister Mary of the Holy Trinity
When souls are being tried, what they need from you is deeper love of Me—so that, through you, I may give them the grace they need.  So you see, you need your serenity even more at such times.  Do not try to buy peace for souls by losing your own!  Offer up your act of self-denial at such times, so that the soul who is suffering may get the grace to accept in joy what she cannot change—through your free offering of love.  You will see more and more how you are all instruments in the communication of My Love, for one another as for yourselves.  The more you will understand that, the more you will love one another.
On Feeling Unloved
Only the realization that I love you now, I, Jesus, who know all your misery, all your sins, the failure of your whole life, only the knowledge that I Who know how underserving you are of anyone‘s love, yet love you nevertheless with the Love of God Himself, can take away the pain and anxiety of feeling unloved by so many persons, and not undeservedly.
 The Age of St. Bernard’s is not like Ours.
St. Bernard, commenting on the Canticle (Song of Songs)

"Or perhaps, drawn away and seduced by his own concupiscence, he is still being dangerously tempted. Such a soul as this does not need a Bridegroom but a Physician, and for this reason receives, not kisses or caresses, surely, but only remedies for wounds in oil and ointments."

Yes, Bernard, in your time this was true — for the time had not yet come to force men willy-nilly from the highways and byways to the wedding feast. Men were still strong and able to overcome concupiscence with a help of the Physician less than the Kiss of His Mouth, less than the embrace of His intimacy. But now we are as children, impatient as we are weak, and needing, therefore, to be fondled and kissed by the Mother and her spouse, by Mary and Jesus.  0 Bernard, those of your age, who could help yourselves, needed the Physician only to supply the ointments of which you speak. But we need the Kiss of this Bridegroom who condescends to the weakness of little ones, like this little one who is too weak to help himself and therefore cries out:
"Let him kiss me with the kiss of his mouth, for thy breasts are better than wine.  For my justification now is not that I am healed by the ointments of the Physician, but that I am in the arms of His Mother, that it is her purity that makes me worthy of His embrace, not my virtue."
If Something Is Painful
It seems I always assume that if something is painful, it is evil and to be avoided. Then, when I am suffering, I begin to think, and I do not rest until I have discovered some truth which I hope will remove the pain. But I do not think I do this only because I want to avoid suffering: it is rather that I look upon suffering as a sign that I am wrong somehow, that God is displeased with me, and therefore something in me must be changed.

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Archive of Earlier Postings

First Posting - In Whom We Have Our Being

Second Posting - Look At Me

Third Posting - You Must Not Force Your Love

Fourth Posting - Interior Silence

Fifth Posting - I Speak To Each Soul

Sixth Posting - Thinking of Dismas

Seventh Posting - Sunshine of the Soul

Eighth Posting - When You Get Sad

Ninth Posting - Something About Your Faith

Tenth Posting - Letter to a Religious Sister

Eleventh Posting - Faith that sees every moment as Father's  Gift

Twelfth Posting - Curing Souls That Cannot Take Correction

Thirteenth Posting - On Feeling Unwanted

14th to 21st Posting - Stations of the Cross

22nd Posting -  The Meaning of Our Weakness

23rd Posting - The Root of Anxiety

24th Posting - The Measure of our Union with Jesus

25th Posting - What Jesus has been trying to teach us

26th Posting - Jesus' Hidden Lesson for Us

27th Posting - Martha, Mary and Lazarus:  A Hidden Lesson

28th PostingCome, of Comforters the Best
  29th Posting  - -- When God Shows HIs Displesure of Us

30th Posting - When You Call on My Name

31st Posting - God Is Our Life.  God Alone IsI

32nd Posting - Who Believes in the Love God Has for Us

33rd Posting - Interior Silence is the Most Eloquent Testimony of 
34th Posting - On the need to suffer injustice

35th Posting - On misunderstanding St. Paul

36th Posting - What to do when you are tempted

37th Posting - On the Psychology of Disturbed Souls

38th Posting - A reader to the site poses a question

39th Posting - Ah, if you knew how much I desire to see Myself in you.

40th Posting  - Is suffering a sign that something is wrong?

41st Posting - Correcting a false conscience

42nd Posting - The meaning of our sins

43rd Posting - What dilates the heart and opens it to God's Love

44th Posting - Preoccupation with what others think of you

45th Posting - In Me you have the grace to overcome temptation

46th Posting - When you pray . . .

47th Posting - Every soul has a secret desire to be adored

48th Posting - I remember once, a long time ago

49th Posting -  Come to Me at once

50th Posting - Wisdom shall laugh in the  latter  day

51st Posting - This is what it means to be a son or daughter of the Father