This is why such a soul experiences excessive sadness and despair soon as signs of its own lack of integrity show up, with the consequence that it immediately feels unacceptable to God.  That’s why a sick soul is always hiding the truth from itself, the mechanism for which is endless self-justification. And why the correction of such a soul is always taken as rejection.
On Helping Souls That Are Being Tried
Do not lose your serenity on account of those who are being tried.  Pray for them; offer the sufferings of My Passion and some acts of self-denial, some self-imposed sufferings for them.”
Jesus to Sister Mary of the Holy Trinity
When souls are being tried, what they need from you is deeper love of Me—so that, through you, I may give them the grace they need.  So you see, you need your serenity even more at such times.  Do not try to buy peace for souls by losing your own!  Offer up your act of self-denial at such times, so that the soul who is suffering may get the grace to accept in joy what she cannot change—through your free offering of love.  You will see more and more how you are all instruments in the communication of My Love, for one another as for yourselves.  The more you will understand that, the more you will love one another.
On Feeling Unloved
Only the realization that I love you now, I, Jesus, who know all your misery, all your sins, the failure of your whole life, only the knowledge that I Who know how underserving you are of anyone‘s love, yet love you nevertheless with the Love of God Himself, can take away the pain and anxiety of feeling unloved by so many persons, and not undeservedly.
 The Age of St. Bernard’s is not like Ours.
St. Bernard, commenting on the Canticle (Song of Songs)

"Or perhaps, drawn away and seduced by his own concupiscence, he is still being dangerously tempted. Such a soul as this does not need a Bridegroom but a Physician, and for this reason receives, not kisses or caresses, surely, but only remedies for wounds in oil and ointments."

Yes, Bernard, in your time this was true — for the time had not yet come to force men willy-nilly from the highways and byways to the wedding feast. Men were still strong and able to overcome concupiscence with a help of the Physician less than the Kiss of His Mouth, less than the embrace of His intimacy. But now we are as children, impatient as we are weak, and needing, therefore, to be fondled and kissed by the Mother and her spouse, by Mary and Jesus.  0 Bernard, those of your age, who could help yourselves, needed the Physician only to supply the ointments of which you speak. But we need the Kiss of this Bridegroom who condescends to the weakness of little ones, like this little one who is too weak to help himself and therefore cries out:
"Let him kiss me with the kiss of his mouth, for thy breasts are better than wine.  For my justification now is not that I am healed by the ointments of the Physician, but that I am in the arms of His Mother, that it is her purity that makes me worthy of His embrace, not my virtue."
If Something Is Painful
It seems I always assume that if something is painful, it is evil and to be avoided. Then, when I am suffering, I begin to think, and I do not rest until I have discovered some truth which I hope will remove the pain. But I do not think I do this only because I want to avoid suffering: it is rather that I look upon suffering as a sign that I am wrong somehow, that God is displeased with me, and therefore something in me must be changed.

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Station Twelve:  Jesus Dies on the Cross (cont'd)

“'I thirst.'  Do you understand the meaning of this cry?  I thirst for My Father now because I cannot love Him in souls.  I thirst for love, and My need for Love cannot be satisfied because My Father cannot love Me in souls.  That is how I thirst for souls: I thirst to be Myself in Souls.  I thirst for your love of Me in souls, your love which is My Love.  I thirst that by My Love in you souls may become Me, that the Father may love Me in them as He loves Me in Myself.  I thirst because when He cannot love Me in them I am separated from Him.  Do you see how true it is, My little beloved, that I love you as I love Myself?
“'It is consummated.'  Yes, now everything is accomplished.  I have given away My justification in Myself to make you just in Me; in Me your sins have bought your salvation.  I have given you My Mother, I have separated Myself from her that she might be yours.  I have given you all the souls you were ordained to bring to Me, from the beginning.  I have given you My Father, My Life, separating Myself from Him as I was separated from My Mother, that He may be yours forever.  And I have left you My one plea, for souls!  I have left you My thirst.  Now everything is finished.  I have done everything the Father gave Me to do, and you have done what I have done—in Me.  And now, as I die, let your dying to yourself be consummated in My death!  My little beloved, come now, we are dying together—My little beloved!
“'Into Thy hands I commend My Spirit.'  Yes, that is the way We die together, not violently, as though the separation of soul from body, willed by My Father were something contrary to Our Will, but freely and lovingly, giving the Father from Whom everything is, Our spirit, Our soul animated by His grace.  For now everything is returned to the Father.  As We have lived, so now We die, wanting only what the Father wants, wanting it only because He wants it, adoring His Providence in the perfect trust of His Son.”
(And now say Our Father, Hail Mary, Glory Be to the Father, O Jesus, forgive us our sins, etc.  As you rise to walk to the next Station, say:  "Jesus, Mary, I love you!  Save souls!" three times, to the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit.)