This is why such a soul experiences excessive sadness and despair soon as signs of its own lack of integrity show up, with the consequence that it immediately feels unacceptable to God.  That’s why a sick soul is always hiding the truth from itself, the mechanism for which is endless self-justification. And why the correction of such a soul is always taken as rejection.
On Helping Souls That Are Being Tried
Do not lose your serenity on account of those who are being tried.  Pray for them; offer the sufferings of My Passion and some acts of self-denial, some self-imposed sufferings for them.”
Jesus to Sister Mary of the Holy Trinity
When souls are being tried, what they need from you is deeper love of Me—so that, through you, I may give them the grace they need.  So you see, you need your serenity even more at such times.  Do not try to buy peace for souls by losing your own!  Offer up your act of self-denial at such times, so that the soul who is suffering may get the grace to accept in joy what she cannot change—through your free offering of love.  You will see more and more how you are all instruments in the communication of My Love, for one another as for yourselves.  The more you will understand that, the more you will love one another.
On Feeling Unloved
Only the realization that I love you now, I, Jesus, who know all your misery, all your sins, the failure of your whole life, only the knowledge that I Who know how underserving you are of anyone‘s love, yet love you nevertheless with the Love of God Himself, can take away the pain and anxiety of feeling unloved by so many persons, and not undeservedly.
 The Age of St. Bernard’s is not like Ours.
St. Bernard, commenting on the Canticle (Song of Songs)

"Or perhaps, drawn away and seduced by his own concupiscence, he is still being dangerously tempted. Such a soul as this does not need a Bridegroom but a Physician, and for this reason receives, not kisses or caresses, surely, but only remedies for wounds in oil and ointments."

Yes, Bernard, in your time this was true — for the time had not yet come to force men willy-nilly from the highways and byways to the wedding feast. Men were still strong and able to overcome concupiscence with a help of the Physician less than the Kiss of His Mouth, less than the embrace of His intimacy. But now we are as children, impatient as we are weak, and needing, therefore, to be fondled and kissed by the Mother and her spouse, by Mary and Jesus.  0 Bernard, those of your age, who could help yourselves, needed the Physician only to supply the ointments of which you speak. But we need the Kiss of this Bridegroom who condescends to the weakness of little ones, like this little one who is too weak to help himself and therefore cries out:
"Let him kiss me with the kiss of his mouth, for thy breasts are better than wine.  For my justification now is not that I am healed by the ointments of the Physician, but that I am in the arms of His Mother, that it is her purity that makes me worthy of His embrace, not my virtue."
If Something Is Painful
It seems I always assume that if something is painful, it is evil and to be avoided. Then, when I am suffering, I begin to think, and I do not rest until I have discovered some truth which I hope will remove the pain. But I do not think I do this only because I want to avoid suffering: it is rather that I look upon suffering as a sign that I am wrong somehow, that God is displeased with me, and therefore something in me must be changed.

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I remember once, a long time ago, watching the seals in Central Park in New York City. There were a whole lot of them, but I was watching two in particular, a mamma seal and a baby seal that was learning how to swim. The mamma seal was reclining on a rock close to the water, and the baby seal was in the water, fluttering about because it really could hardly swim at all - it was very small... So it tried to get out of the water, back on the rocks. But as soon as it was back on the rocks the mamma seal pushed it back into the water again. And again it tried to swim, and again it fluttered and clambered back on the rocks. And again the mamma seal pushed it back into the water. This happened three or four times, until at last the baby seal seemed so exhausted that it seemed it was going to drown. And just then the mamma seal, with a quick movement, as fast as lightning, grabbed her baby and put him safe and sound with her on the rocks. And I remember thinking how that was a perfect picture of how Jesus teaches us - where  did the instinct of the mamma seal come from, if not from Him - and how He too seems, apparently, to be abandoning us, and then, after we have had the necessary experience in exercising hope and our own free will, when we feel at the point of giving up because it seems too much for us, then He too, like the mamma seal, grabs us and brings us to Himself where we feel happy and secure. But the truth is He had never left us a single moment, just like the eyes of the mama seal never left her baby for a single moment.
Never be afraid of your weakness, never let it stand in the way of your perfect trust - Jesus permits the weakness in order to purify your love and your trust.
 Here is what the Little Flower said to her sister Celine, who had these misgivings:
        “If you are willing to bear in peace the trial of not being pleased with yourself, you will be offering the Divine Master a home in your heart. It is true that you will suffer, because you will be like a stranger to your own house,  but do not be afraid - the poorer you are, the more Jesus will love you. I know that He is better pleased to see you stumbling in the night upon a stony road, than walking in the full light of day upon a path carpeted with flowers, because these flowers might delay your advance.”
To realize your nothingness without Jesus is a most precious grace.  Work on getting into this habit: whenever you are exceptionally pleased, or disturbed about something, all excited planning and anticipating something in the future, or worried and apprehensive
about something in the future, STOP! It means that you are taking over, your joy is in what you can control, your sorrow is in what you cannot control. You are trying to be God, you want your pleasures and your hopes outside of God.
You will tell yourself, "Yes, but I am doing all these things for God!" My answer is, "If they are for God, then let Him do them."
That does not of course mean that you won't do them, but that you will be His instrument in doing them; you will do them with a certain carefree, childlike joy because you cast all your cares on Him.
Did you ever notice how much joy a real man takes in his wife when she depends on him, how the more she trusts him, the more he wants to do for her? Well multiply that by infinity and you will get some idea of how our Lord likes to do things for you - if only you will trust Him and let Him do them.  And that is what you should meditate on and learn fast, because the sooner you learn it, the faster you'll become a saint.

There is a story about the Little Flower - her sister Celine (Sister Genevieve) tells it about her. Therese and some other little girl were together one day with a group of adults who wanted to see someone's garden. But there was a great big horse standing right in front of the gate and they couldn't budge it. They were wondering what to do when Therese and her friend crawled right under the horse and went into the garden. That is the "little way." The big way is when you have a problem and you try to work it out for yourself in order to please God, in short,  trying to figure out how to get the horse out of the way.  But when you go to God, saying simply, "Jesus, Mary, I love you; save souls," that is the little way, going under the horse. Because even when we try to do things to please God, there is an enormous amount of egotism that enters in, and first thing you know, we are concerned more that our work should be perfect as a manifestation of our perfection, than we are with pleasing God.
How much this is the case you will discover when you try to form the habit of being sure to turn to Jesus and Mary first. Only then will you find out how much you turn to yourself first.

You can be a saint, if you want to be one. It's as simple as that. Only you must remember, ALL THE TIME, that God makes saints, not we: we just do what we are told. But in order to do what we are told, we must hear what is said, and in order to hear we must listen, and in order to listen, we must be quiet - not only with our tongues, but interiorly, in our minds and hearts.

It is good to see the evil you have done of yourself, but that is only a means to seeing the good you do through Jesus. If you do not realize the good He does through you, what will you have to thank Him for? Beware of a certain kind of diabolical humility that ends up making your evil more powerful than God’s grace.

When you feel that you had to be all right in order to be happy, it means that you still need the milk of consolation, the consolation of seeing goodness in yourself. When this is taken away and you see the misery and wretchedness in yourself, then you are beginning to taste the meat, Deo gratias.

Not only is it possible to be like two people; that is the way it has to be! That is the meaning of declaring war on yourself (if you don't declare it on yourself, you'll be waging it with everyone else). It is also the moaning of Paul's words: "I live now, not I, but Christ lives in me." Because Paul had waged the war so successfully that now only Christ acted in him. And so, when you read "Blessed is the man to whom the Lord hath not imputed sin, and in whose spirit there is no guile," (Psalm 31) you can understand this to mean, not "Blessed is the man in whom there is no sin," for then only Our Lord and His Blessed Mother would be blessed, but he "to whom the Lord hath not imputed sin," that is to say, he is blessed from whose sins Our Lord turns His face, to whom He does not attribute sin. The sins are there, for we all sin, and "He who says he is without sin, is a liar," St. John writes. But those who turn to the Mercy of God, to His Sacred Heart, do not have their sins imputed to them. And they, as the psalmist sings, are without guilt, "in whose spirit there is no guile." That is to say, those who do not try to cover up their sins in their hypocrisy, as the Pharisees did. And so you can see that the great secret of sanctification is simplicity, the simplicity of the child who runs to the mother for help in the knowledge of its weakness; "Whosoever shall not receive the kingdom of God as a little child, shall not enter into it." (Mark 10)
And so what you have to get more and more used to (the faster you get used to it, the more quickly you will become a saint), is the idea that all the goodness you want to see and in which you want to rejoice, is in Jesus and in Mary, as you are in Them and They in you!

And you know that Jesus and Mary do love you (you have to learn that more and more), and so there is nothing  to be afraid of. In fact you become infallible - because the cause of your hope and of your joy is Infallible. That is the secret of the Little Flower, her little way.