This is why such a soul experiences excessive sadness and despair soon as signs of its own lack of integrity show up, with the consequence that it immediately feels unacceptable to God.  That’s why a sick soul is always hiding the truth from itself, the mechanism for which is endless self-justification. And why the correction of such a soul is always taken as rejection.
On Helping Souls That Are Being Tried
Do not lose your serenity on account of those who are being tried.  Pray for them; offer the sufferings of My Passion and some acts of self-denial, some self-imposed sufferings for them.”
Jesus to Sister Mary of the Holy Trinity
When souls are being tried, what they need from you is deeper love of Me—so that, through you, I may give them the grace they need.  So you see, you need your serenity even more at such times.  Do not try to buy peace for souls by losing your own!  Offer up your act of self-denial at such times, so that the soul who is suffering may get the grace to accept in joy what she cannot change—through your free offering of love.  You will see more and more how you are all instruments in the communication of My Love, for one another as for yourselves.  The more you will understand that, the more you will love one another.
On Feeling Unloved
Only the realization that I love you now, I, Jesus, who know all your misery, all your sins, the failure of your whole life, only the knowledge that I Who know how underserving you are of anyone‘s love, yet love you nevertheless with the Love of God Himself, can take away the pain and anxiety of feeling unloved by so many persons, and not undeservedly.
 The Age of St. Bernard’s is not like Ours.
St. Bernard, commenting on the Canticle (Song of Songs)

"Or perhaps, drawn away and seduced by his own concupiscence, he is still being dangerously tempted. Such a soul as this does not need a Bridegroom but a Physician, and for this reason receives, not kisses or caresses, surely, but only remedies for wounds in oil and ointments."

Yes, Bernard, in your time this was true — for the time had not yet come to force men willy-nilly from the highways and byways to the wedding feast. Men were still strong and able to overcome concupiscence with a help of the Physician less than the Kiss of His Mouth, less than the embrace of His intimacy. But now we are as children, impatient as we are weak, and needing, therefore, to be fondled and kissed by the Mother and her spouse, by Mary and Jesus.  0 Bernard, those of your age, who could help yourselves, needed the Physician only to supply the ointments of which you speak. But we need the Kiss of this Bridegroom who condescends to the weakness of little ones, like this little one who is too weak to help himself and therefore cries out:
"Let him kiss me with the kiss of his mouth, for thy breasts are better than wine.  For my justification now is not that I am healed by the ointments of the Physician, but that I am in the arms of His Mother, that it is her purity that makes me worthy of His embrace, not my virtue."
If Something Is Painful
It seems I always assume that if something is painful, it is evil and to be avoided. Then, when I am suffering, I begin to think, and I do not rest until I have discovered some truth which I hope will remove the pain. But I do not think I do this only because I want to avoid suffering: it is rather that I look upon suffering as a sign that I am wrong somehow, that God is displeased with me, and therefore something in me must be changed.

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This is what it means to be a son or daughter of the Father: to become another littlest one, as little as Jesus Himself, Who is so small that He has nothing, absolutely nothing, that He has not received from the Father.   And so when you say, "Jesus, Mary, I love you save souls!” you are one with Jesus in Mary which means that the Father is communicating His Being to you — because that is the living Reality of Jesus, the Word, that He Is What, rather Whom , the Father generates, and so to be one with Jesus is to be the child of the Father.

And this is not to be understood in the human mode of generation, as though you were once and for all begotten and that was that, but as an eternal generation which is to be expressed in the present tense —  "Before Abraham was, I am."    I  Am the Son of the Father. And now you are one with Jesus in Mary, and therefore willing as He wills, that souls should be saved, that His kingdom should come.
And so, when you think of your temptations and your sins, let this be the occasion to turn to this good Father, in the realization that your very weakness is your claim on His merciful Love and Generosity, that He likes nothing better than to give Himself, and that everything that happens is for the sake of making you disposed to what He wants to give, Himself.  So don’t think of yourself as on a road; rather, don’t think of the road as though it were distinct from the destination Which is the Father — because, as St. Catherine said, “all the way to heaven is heaven.” Otherwise you will get back into yourself, onto a merely human road which can only lead to something human — or worse.
"Those who have shall receive" — because only those who are united with God by faith in Jesus, are in contact with Him, and therefore only those can He teach. 
He also said "ask and you shall receive." But this asking is not only with the mouth. We ask when we believe in the Goodness of the Father Whom we are asking, and therefore He is moved to give us what we ask for since it is He Himself Who is moving us to ask.

He also said "If you have faith you can move mountains" — because by faith we believe that the Father we are asking and Who wants to give us what we are asking for, what we need, made those mountains.
But just as we would think that it would be absurd to think of moving a mountain, because we would be thinking of moving it by our own strength, so we think it would be absurd to think of overcoming our own vices which are, so to speak, immovable mountains, because, again, we would be thinking of moving them by
our own strength.
And therefore we must remember that whatever good we do, we do it by the strength of the Father as we are united in His Son, and therefore the more intently we are united with Him by faith the more powerfully the Father can act in us, believing as we do what we do, we do, not because we are worthy, but by the word of the Father, Who speaks in us in and through His Word.
Nothing is more characteristic of love than impatience to embrace the beloved. Do you think, then, that the God Who made us is unacquainted with the need of our nature? Therefore, be sure that whatsoever it may be that keeps you from this embrace of your Lord and God does not come from Him but from your own pride and from the enemy who will do anything in his power to keep you from this embrace.  And the best means he has is your own false conscience which will tells you that you must be made worthy to approach your God - that you are not holy enough, not pure enough, to embrace Him,, as if anyone but God Himself could make you worthy of God.
And that is the delusion, the error which will keep you thinking, not of God and only what comes out of His mouth, that is to say, each thing He gives to you at each moment, but of your own state and disposition so that you are secretly led to rejoice not in Jesus but in yourself, to seek your hope not in the Goodness of the Father as you are one with Him in Jesus but of your own goodness -
even though you have been shown again and again that there is no hope in your goodness or strength.
I am God — You cannot deny my authority by making everyone and everything equal. You cannot kill me
by denying my existence.
You are not God, neither is your "progress" — infinite looking forwards, nor your "evolution" — looking backwards — nor both together looking both ways.
You cannot get rid of your 'guilt by denying its existence. Neither can you get rid of it by a psychiatrist — doctors are not my ordained priests. Psychiatrists are not my authorized prophets.
It is a weird conclusion then, that guilt-ridden moderns have come to — that God cannot make something out of nothing but evolution can.
How important it is to realize that obedience is hearing, in principle, listening rather, in order to hear.
If our Lord is the Word, He is a living Word Who, therefore is speaking - and especially to those He loves:

"Dies diei eructat verbum, et nox nocti indicat scientiam." (Ps 18:3 )  Day to day uttereth speech, and night to night sheweth knowledge.]

What is  He saying here? He is telling you  what you hear when you listen. He says always that He loves you and that He is happy because you want nothing except what He wants. And when He is silent, that is, when He appears to be silent, He is like the host , His silence speaks to your silence as the apparent emptiness of the Host rejoices in your emptiness. It is always the infallibility of His Love that speaks in your soul when you listen - and your contentedness in His silence draws Him deep into your soul. "Night teaches science to night."

The real meaning of the cross is our belief that Jesus is really united with us when all that we see is the misery and corruption that is ourselves.
To believe that we are other Christs. Just as He is hidden in the Host — all we see is something that looks like bread - so too He is hidden in us — all we see is our own evil. We are hosts that hide Him under our misery. We must believe that He is within us, that He has interpenetrated our bodies and made us one with Him, with the same faith that  must believe that He is in the Holy Eucharist.
What a society we have!
The musicologists, who couldn't play a note to save their lives, tell us how the music should be piayed — and the Biblical scholars who would split a blood vessel if they loved anyone but themselves — let alone God — te11 us how the Bible should be read.
These are the outer limits of our schizophrenia – the complete separation of mind from heart. The neurotic insistence that thought must be separated from feeling, if we are to be objective — and so those who cannot feel music teach music — those whose minds are untouched by the love of God teach us theology.
To love is to love all, and to love all is to love always more,  yet with a divine contentedness in the love you have at this moment, because that is the will of God for you, to have just that degree of love and no more, and even for you to have all the miseries and imperfections which He shows you in yourself.
Do not think that this means sloth and inactivity in overcoming your defects. It is in fact the very opposite: it is the joy and contentedness you take in Jesus as you see your own misery which opens your soul to His Love, as He energizes it and gives it the courage to overcome whatever is contrary to His Love. But always in the spirit of Mary, in the spirit of
contemplation which thinks only of the goodness of the Beloved.
As soon as you experience, therefore, a certain unhealthy anxiety, a preoccupation with yourself,
it is a sign that you are working from your own false self-sufficiency, so that by a kind of supernatural instinct you feel sad, knowing that God does not want what you would give Him because it does not come from Him. Then you can hear Him say "Martha, Martha, thou art busy and troubled about many things."